Dear Miss Kitty, If someone lies to you or isn’t sincere when they say they will do something – is that your fault for having too high of expectations? In other words – doesn’t having some sort of expectations allow you to have standards of decent conduct? Erika, SANTA BARBARA Dear Erika, It is never [...]

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Dear Miss Kitty, I saw a man I know downtown “cuddling” in a restaurant booth with a woman who is not his wife.  Normally I wouldn’t have said anything about it, but the man and his wife have been friends of ours for years.  In fact just a few weeks ago they came over for [...]

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When we feel the need to batten down the hatches economically, we make a move to the tried and true.  What we know we like, what we know we need and what we know works.  Along those lines, nothing works quite like a lacy black bra.  Just like your little black dress, perfect black heels [...]

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Dear Miss Kitty, I’m only in my mid 30’s but it seems every woman I date has so much stuff.  Multiple ex’s, some kids, and lots of house things as well.  I want to spend time with someone, get to really know them and eventually get married, but the stuff problem is making it difficult. [...]

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Dear Miss Kitty, My husband and I have been married for 4 years.  He just got a job offer in another state. I really don’t want to go and he doesn’t need to take the job.  I feel that slowly I have been losing a part of myself with every decision I have made for [...]

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